12/04/2011

revisiting Ellis and Rotter

GUARNTEED MISERY— TWELVE SURE WAYS TO GUARANTEE A LIFETIME OF MISERY

Ellis came onto the psychological scene in the 1950′s with his irrational core beliefs.

Since that was over 60 years ago, I want to re visit my favorite author, lecturer and philosopher. I have taken Rotters “Locus of Control” and applied the rules that External people live by with Ellis Irrational Core Beliefs. Rotter, as you may remember talked about a External vs Internal Locus of Control. Internals believe they can change most of the situations in their life and Externals think life changes them.

Every maladaptive impulse we have can be traced to an irrational core belief.
Some layman may call these beliefs “attitudes.”

Ellis is mathematically and logically correct, as is Cognitive Behavioral Psyhcology.

In roulette, the odds of winning are 47% if you play red or black numbers. The same is true of odd and even numbers. This is very close to 50/50 chance of winning.

Good salesmen know that the odds of selling their product has a percentage build into it. They know if they have 20 leads, 2 are going to be sales. It may be more or less depending on their product and abilities. They know that every “no” will ultimately bring a “yes” their way.

Some bright people seem to understand the “nos” in life just mean a “yes” is somewhere on the horizon.
Helen Keller said that we are so obsessed with the door that closed in our life we don’t see the one that has opened.

Life has these same percentages invested in it. If your life is losing about 90% of the time or over 50% of the time, you need to change casinos. Something is mathematically out of balance. See if you identify with any of these irrational powerless beliefs.

How to have a miserable life, guaranteed!
1. My life is miserable, my childhood was rotten, and current life is full of bad luck, and this will never change for me, I am powerless to change hardly anything and this is unbearable.
2. Others are to blame for my misfortunes, my part in my misfortunes is to bear them as best as I can and prepare for more unpleasantness in my life.
3. Since others are to blame for my life situation, they must certainly take care of me, providing me with all necessities of life or they should be damned, destroyed or sent to hell.
4. Since life has stressed me out, I need things to give me a quick sense of happiness, no matter now fleeting. Others owe this to me and if they won’t give it, they should be forever damned and blamed.
5. Stress is so overwhelming for me, I can scarcely think of taking care of myself and working or providing something useful and productive for society.
6. I do not deserve my lot in life, it stinks and is grossly unfair. The Universe is unfair.
7. When I give my affection to others they usually misuse me and hurt me and they should be forever damned for this, for all my efforts in their behalf.
8. Those who succeed where I fail are either rich or know the right people, or have good luck
9. I am looking outside of me, for the one wonderful thing that will instantly and absolutely change my whole life around for the better, and will exclude all other sources of help as inferior and worthless.
10. If I cannot be happy, no one has the right to be either. They should understand my unhappiness and join in my misery. If they won’t be miserable too, they are evil and thoughtless.
11. If others do not recognized my greatness, and my efforts to help others, they are worthless, miserable creatures
12. WALLOWING IN MY MISERY GIVES ME MY SENSE OF PURPOSE AND IDENTITY and I will not give it up for anything. I WILL GO TO MY DEATH BEING A VICTIM AND FEELING VINDICATED IN MY HATRED.

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